Does your relationship feel stuck?

Do you find yourself in the same cycle of conflict?

Has there been infidelity?

Have you lost what drew you to the other person?

If you have been thinking an outside voice would be helpful in your relationship, we are here to walk with you. If you feel stuck in the same arguments over and over, let us work with you to uncover what is keeping you in the cycle.

marriage counseling and couples therapy helps support past issues

Relationship counseling supports issues that are rooted in past traumas and childhood. Improving the relationship requires understanding both perspectives, offering empathy for the child that grew-up to be the adult in front of you.

On average, couples wait six years before seeking help for marital problems (Gottman Institute). Couples have a need for connection, but negative cycles interfere with connection by preventing emotional safety and disconnect from one another.

All relationships take effort and attention. We need to put work into our relationships to keep them moving on the path that we find connection, laughter, companionship and intimacy. It is easy to let relationships slide into roommates. Our hope for you is that you would not be merely roommates with your spouse/partner but you have a best friend. What is a best friend? Someone who has your best interests at heart and who wants you to be who you are in fullness and as the years progress, you become more and more you with all your strength and dignity. Likewise, you fight for and desire goodness of them as well. In short, the best parts of one another keep growing and there is new growth, risks taken and a close bond of knowing what it is to be loved for who you are.

What brings couples into relationship counseling?

Loss of connection
Infidelity/Affairs
Pornography Addiction
Illness
Divorce
Family tensions
Life transitions (Jobs, Moving, Etc..)
Becoming empty nesters
Balancing Work/Family/Marriage/Friendships
Sexual intimacy
Extended Family Relationships
Navigating COVID-19 and upheaval of routines

How does couples Counseling Help?

Counseling helps provide the proper containment and space to develop new helpful ways of connecting and understanding one another. Working with a trusted counselor helps get to the root of the issues that are surfacing in your relationship. Bringing up issues that cause tension and conflict in your relationship in therapy provides proper containment and the therapist helps guide you to communicate and create connection through introducing new tools and skills that you can use long after you leave the session. If you ever had the thought that you wish you had a third-party who is an unbiased referee and help keep you on track, then couples counseling is for you.

Our Relationship Therapists in Kirkland are here to help.

It is not too late or too soon to seek counseling for your relationship. We always have space to expand our curiosity of our spouse/partner, to find out more about them and deepen our connections. We would love to work with you to help you develop and grow the necessary skills to create a love that spans decades.

If your relationship has any emotional/pyschological/physical harm and abuse in it, please seek individual counseling first.