Understanding Teenagers Who Need Therapy But Don't Want to Go

Thrive teen therapists:

Katie Olsen MA, LMHCA Kassidy Gordon MSW, Lswaic

Adolescence is a challenging phase of life, filled with physical, emotional, and social changes. For some teenagers, these changes can lead to mental health issues that may require professional help. However, it is not uncommon for teenagers to resist the idea of therapy, often due to various reasons such as stigma, fear, or a lack of understanding. In this blog post, we will explore the importance of therapy for teenagers, common reasons why they may resist it, and strategies to encourage them to seek the help they need. 1 in 3 Washington 10th graders report experiencing strongly depressive feelings. The teens that are struggling are not alone, but do they know they are not alone?

1. The Importance of Therapy for Teenagers:
Therapy can provide invaluable support for teenagers facing mental health challenges. It offers a safe and confidential space for them to express their thoughts and emotions, develop coping skills, and gain a better understanding of themselves. Therapy can address a range of issues including anxiety, depression, self-esteem, academic stress, family conflicts, and more.

2. Reasons Why Teenagers May Resist Therapy:

a) Stigma and Misconceptions: Many teenagers may perceive therapy as a sign of weakness or believe that it is only for "crazy" or "broken" individuals. Addressing these misconceptions and normalizing therapy can help reduce resistance.


b) Fear of Judgment: Teenagers may worry about being judged by their peers or fear that their struggles will be misunderstood by the therapist.


c) Lack of Awareness:
Some teenagers may not fully understand the benefits of therapy or may not be aware that their struggles can be effectively addressed through professional help.


d) Loss of Control: Adolescence is a time when teenagers strive for independence. The idea of therapy may be perceived as a loss of control or an intrusion into their personal lives.

3. Strategies to Encourage Teenagers to Seek Therapy:
a) Open and Non-judgmental Communication: Create a safe and supportive environment where teenagers feel comfortable discussing their concerns. Listen actively, validate their feelings, and avoid judgment or criticism.


b) Educate and Normalize: Provide accurate information about therapy, its benefits, and how it can help them navigate their challenges. Normalize the idea of seeking help by sharing stories of successful therapy experiences. Normalize that therapy is part of life, not a last ditch effort when all other efforts have been exhausted. Too often parents reach for therapy as a last resort vs a first line of defense.


c) Involve Them in the Decision-making Process: Empower teenagers by involving them in the process of finding a therapist. Allow them to express their preferences and concerns, and consider their input when selecting a therapist.


d) Highlight Confidentiality: Assure teenagers that therapy sessions are confidential, emphasizing that their privacy will be respected.


e) Seek Support from Trusted Adults: Encourage teenagers to talk to a trusted adult, such as a parent, teacher, or school counselor, who can provide guidance and support in finding the right therapist.


While it can be challenging to convince teenagers to seek therapy when they are resistant, it is crucial to prioritize their mental well-being. By understanding their concerns, providing accurate information, and creating a supportive environment, we can help teenagers overcome their resistance and access the professional help they need. Remember, therapy can be a transformative experience that equips teenagers with the tools to navigate their challenges and thrive in their journey towards adulthood.

If you or your teen need therapy, reach out today. We have immediate openings in our kids and teen clinic!