By molly kitz ma, lmhc
Help is available immediately if you are a victim (or know someone who is) of domestic violence. Ways to get help:
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CALL 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Domestic violence is a pervasive problem that affects individuals of all genders, ages, and backgrounds. It is crucial to understand the dynamics of abuse, recognize the warning signs, and support survivors in their journey towards safety and healing. As therapists, we are committed to this mission year round and aim to raise awareness, advocate, and help survivors and their families.
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence (also referred to as intimate partner violence (IPV)) is a pattern of behaviors used by one partner to maintain a sense of control or power over the other partner. Domestic violence is an umbrella term and many forms of abuse can fall under it; financial abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional and psychological abuse, and digital abuse (also known as stalking). Every type of abuse is serious and no one ever deserves any form of abuse.
It is important to know that domestic violence doesn’t discriminate - people of all ages, genders, races, religions, or socioeconomic status can be a victim or perpetrator of domestic violence. It is estimated that 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men in the United States have experienced violence in their relationships.
Is This Abuse?
It can be difficult to recognize when a behavior or relationship has gone from healthy to abusive. Some warning signs of abuse from your partner include:
Insulting, demeaning, and putting you down in front of others. For example, name calling, making fun of, using vulnerable information to make fun of you.
Exhibiting extreme jealousy when you are with your friends or loved ones. For example, constantly monitoring your whereabouts, isolating you from friends and family, or dictating what you can wear.
Preventing you from spending time with others. Deliberate efforts to isolate the partner from their support system, making it difficult for them to seek help or escape the abusive situation.
Controlling finances and/or household decisions without your input. One partner controlling the finances, withholding money, or preventing the other person from accessing financial resources.
Destroying your belongings. One partner breaking, damaging and intentionally destroying what belongs to you (or is important to you).
Forcing you to perform sexual acts without consent. Any sexual activity that is non-consensual or done under duress is considered abuse.
Threatening or intimidating you with weapons. Anytime someone uses a weapon to threaten and/or intimidate you is abuse.
Any form of physical harm. Any form of physical aggression, such as hitting, slapping, pushing, or other acts of violence.
Domestic Violence in Washington State
According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Over 1.8 million Washington residents will experience domestic violence in their lifetimes
41.4% of women and 31.7% of men experience physical violence, sexual violence and/or stalking in their relationhips in their lifetimes
28.3% of women will be victims of stalking in their lifetime
49.7% of all crimes against persons in 2020 were domestic violence crimes
How Do We Find Healing?
Healing from domestic violence occurs on many fronts, however, there is help available! Whether you are a victim, a loved one, a professional, or an advocate there are ways we can all help to raise awareness and end domestic violence in our communities. As therapists, we are here for you and are ready to help guide you on a path of healing. Domestic violence is a deeply concerning issue that requires collective action and understanding. By engaging in open conversations, spreading awareness, and supporting survivors, we can work towards a society free from the grip of abuse.
Statewide resources: https://wscadv.org/washington-domestic-violence-programs/#king
DV Hopeline (local): https://dvhopeline.org
Lifewire (local): https://www.lifewire.org
The Hotline (national): https://www.thehotline.org
If you have been impacted by domestic violence and need help and healing. We are here for you. You did not cause abuse. Your abuser made a choice to abuse.